The beautiful thing about being married is that you have someone who compliments you and makes up for your deficiencies. My wife has an awesome ability to remain cool under some situations where I clearly would lose all KINDS of cool points. On more than one occasion, she has calmly dealt with a situation that made me stop and go, “how are you remaining cool?”. I tell you what, watching her and how she responds has been a valuable part of my growth as a person, professional, and an attorney.
So many times when situations happen that we are not prepared for, we, quite frankly, freak the hell out! Don’t feel bad. It’s a natural response. I have lost cool points on more than one occasion so don’t feel guilty.
On a serious tip, when you find yourself in an unfamiliar situation, take a second to breathe. One of the best things I heard was from a friend of mine who is a doctor. She said the first thing they teach you in medical school is to remain calm. She said “You’re the doctor. How’s it going to look if YOU freak out?”.
Now, none of us are robots. We will all have some situations that are presented before us that will cause us to instantly revert to instincts. Just remember the phrase “cooler heads prevail” and before you go into full “FREAK OUT, SHUT DOWN” mode, take a second, breathe, and keep it cool. You will be amazed by what you will accomplish if you can keep your composure.
