The skies are clear. The sun is shining. You have just graduated from High School and now heading to college. You meet someone special. At the end of 4 years, you graduate college. You are still dating that special person. Now, you decide to go immediately to Med School / Grad School / Law School / Dental School. You graduate. You get a wonderful job making 6 figures. Your college sweetheart and you decide to get married. You buy a house. You have 2 kids. All is right in the world while the beautiful sounds life float through the air. Yes, yes, THIS is the DREAM you’ve been waiting for and it is here. It’s the AMERICAN DREAM!!
OK! YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! WAKE THE HELL THE UP!!
Now, it’s time for the REAL DREAM!!!
You just graduated from high school. Barely. You ain’t thinking about college. Military? Say what? You ain’t even TRYING to go to Iraq or Afghanistan or whereever they trying to send people. You got you a nice little gig at the mall for some pocket change. Your mom or dad haven’t put you out yet. So, you are 18 or 19, FINE, and ready to get yo SHAKE ON!!!!
So you go out. You party hard. You run hard with your crew. You go out and have sex and (as one of my frat brothers used to say) RAW DOG IT! (in other words, no condum). You still partying. All of sudden, in 9 months, it’s about to be a whole different party. Now, you have a child. Your parents ain’t trying to raise someone else AGAIN. So now, you move into a crappy apartment or even worse, you move in with the baby’s daddy or momma and THAT’s not a cool gig. You realize that your mall gig is not really bringing in any money. So you start looking for other work. You start working two jobs. The party life is just not hitting anymore. And now, you ain’t feeling the baby’s daddy or momma. You get your own place and now, your life is a just regular cycle of get up, get the kids ready, take them to school or day care, go to work, pick up the kids, go home and feed them, put them to bed, and then you go to bed and start it all over again. What the hell kind of life is this?
Or maybe you did go to college. You planned on being a doctor or a lawyer or a dentist. Unfortunately, you really enjoyed college and your GPA shows it. Or maybe you went the first year but just couldn’t afford it. So you stopped. You’ll go back (or at least that’s what you keep telling yourself). Or even better you did graduate. YOu got the degree (just not the one you thought you would get). Now, you are at a different crossroad, what the hell do you do with a degree you didn’t intend to get??
Or maybe you got the degree. You got the job. But no one told you what the job would be like. I know. I know. You’ve been watching all those shows that show the lifestyle of those people who get those jamming degrees. But that’s not real. That’s not what you want. What happens now??
HELLO???????!! YOOOOOOOO!!! Wake the HELL UP!!!!! It’s YOUR LIFE!! You control it! Your life doesn’t control YOU!
So many times as we walk down the paths of the life we THINK we should have, we find ourselves looking backwards. We look back at the decisions we made. We look back and the opportunities we miss. We look back as if we just missed the plane that can take us to our destination.
Well, I got news for you. If you keep looking backwards, you will end up running into the wall. If you keep looking backwards, you will not see the doors of opportunity that are open in front of you. As you get older, what happens is that it becomes easier to SELF JUSTIFY why we can’t do the things we want to do or SELF EXPLAIN why we haven’t done the things we thought we were meant to do.
Who says you can’t be a Doctor at 50 or 60? Who says that your grades in High School were so bad that you can’t get into college? Who says that you can’t start a business and raise your kids at the same time? Who says you can’t live the lifestyle you want to live? You know who says that? Usually, it’s YOU!!!!
The best part of EVERY DREAM is that the dream is YOUR DREAM! Think about it. When you DAY DREAM, YOU are dreaming about your ideal situation. YOU are dreaming about what you want to have happen. Forget the AMERICAN dream, FOCUS on YOUR dream! The only difference between the DREAM and REALITY is YOU! YOU are the BRIDGE. YOU are the one who can take your DREAM WORLD and make it your REAL WORLD.
Make it happen. Make it right. Make your Dream REAL!
