The Tony Kornheiser lesson: Even when you think someone is not, someone is ALWAYS listening
Of course, by now, you have probably heard of the statements that Tony Kornheiser made about ESPN Analyst, Hannah Storm. In case you missed it, here it is what he said:
“Hannah Storm in a horrifying, horrifying outfit today,” Kornheiser said. “She’s got on red go-go boots and a catholic school plaid skirt … way too short for somebody in her 40s or maybe early 50s by now.
“She’s got on her typically very, very tight shirt. She looks like she has sausage casing wrapping around her upper body … I know she’s very good, and I’m not supposed to be critical of ESPN people, so I won’t … but Hannah Storm … come on now! Stop! What are you doing?”
Now, the fact that he made these statements are bad enough. I don’t think anybody would question that point. However, it’s further magnified by the fact that he made the comments on his radio show.
Do we feel sorry for him? OOOOO, no! 2 weeks off the air is just a drop in the bucket. He’s already apologized and he will be back on prime time before march madness is officially over. The reason I’m bringing this story forward is for the millions of people who ‘like’ Tony think they can say something and nobody is paying attention.
Unfortunately, most people don’t realize that every one on the internet has the potential to reach MILLIONS of people in an instant. And for those of you who are working, you need to realize one fundamental fact. If you use the internet as your sounding board, at least ONE of those millions of people may know your BOSS!!!!
Let’s be real. We LOVE our technology. We’re intoxicated by twitter. Fascinated by Facebook. Mesmerized by Myspace. Blown away by our Blogs. And yelling ‘hip hip, hoo ray’ for YOU TUBE! And you better believe that we use every tool that we can think of when can.
Unfortunately, in our ‘haste’ to fully maximize all of these tools, we let two little words called ‘common sense’ seep out of our ears. What made you think that posting an update on your facebook page that says “my boss is an idiot’ wouldn’t get back to her? Who told you that a ‘tweet’ that says “my boss is stupid” wouldn’t get back to him?
And I got news for you. It’s almost like getting caught in bed with someone who is NOT your significant other. You can do the Texas Two step as much as you want but when the music stops, yo ass is GONE!! You can’t argue a post that YOU wrote. You can’t argue what you put in YOUR facebook page. There is no getting around it. And, as one of my tech friends once told me, once it’s on the web, it’s A WRAP! You can’t get it off. You can’t modify it. You may be able to TRY and delete it but if the wrong person saw it and copied it, I got two words for you:
“TOO LATE”
“PINK SLIP”
“YOU’RE FIRED”
Hell, take your pick!!
And OH, don’t think because you wrote a posting AFTER hours at home that you’re safe. As more and more companies move to regular use of technology, you NEVER know who may watching. Now, I’m not saying that you should censor your speech. However, you need to understand two points. ONE, if you say something disparaging about your employer, be prepared to accept the consequences. TWO, you don’t TRULY know who has your back in an employment situation so don’t let yourself fall into a false sense of security. In the right situation, people WILL DIME YOU OUT!!
Listen, we aren’t all of the same calibur as Hannah Storm or Tony Kornheiser or Shawn Johnson or Apollo Ohno. Millions of people are not resting on our every word. But be careful. There are a FEW people who are very interested in what you have to say and you don’t want WHAT you say to effect WHERE you work.
Why does it take so long to get Disability benefits when I start over?
WOW! This question comes up a few times. Here’s how it usually plays out:
1) You have applied and you got denied. So you decided to reapply, OR
2) You went all the way to a Judge and got denied. So you decided to reapply, OR
3) You went all the way to an Appeals Council Decision and you got denied. So you decided to reapply, OR
4) You were receiving disability benefits and you were cut off. So you decided to reapply, OR
5) You got a closed period of disability benefits. So you decided to reapply!
In any event, most people ask the same question “Why does it take so DAMN long to get Disability when you reapply??” And trust me, DAMN, is usually thrown in there somewhere.
Unfortunately, the short answer is “Just because you went through the process once, doesn’t mean you get preferential treatment when you go through the system again.” In other words, every time you go through the system, a new set of hands and eyes will be evaluating your case. As such, your case is treated as if you are filing for the very first time.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking “What about those earlier applications?”, “Do they check those records?”, or “What about the fact that I was disabled before?”. All of those are good questions so let’s go through the scenarios I provided:
1) You have applied and you got denied. So you decided to reapply, OR
OOOOOO, please don’t do this. SO many times, people think that if they just keep reapplying, they will ‘hit it’. Ladies and Gentlemen, this is NOT LOTTO!!! You have to go through the system to get the best results. Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t reapply. I’m saying that you should be mindful of the fact that you are starting over every time you reapply. They will go and get the info from your previous application (depending on how soon you reapply) but you are still starting over.
2) You went all the way to a Judge and got denied. So you decided to reapply, OR
I’ve said it to people a million times that you don’t usually get your best opportunity unless you actually go through the process. The process usually means from initial application to a Judge. Now, for Social Security’s purposes, your disability period is the day after the judge’s decision. Why? In their eyes, the Judge has already determined that you are NOT disabled up to the date of his or her decision so even if you were found disabled, SSA is probably not going to back beyond that date (Sometimes they do but most times they don’t).
3) You went all the way to an Appeals Council Decision and you got denied. So you decided to reapply, OR
Sometimes, people want to wait until they go all the way through the administrative process. Most representatives will probably tell you that while your case is pending before the Appeals Council, you should start a new application. In any event, if you reapply, the earliest date of benefits would be the day after the judges decision.
4) You were receiving disability benefits and you were cut off. So you decided to reapply, OR
This situation comes up a lot. You’ve been receiving benefits for an extended period of time. Then, for whatever reason, SSA determines that you are no longer disabled or no longer entitled to benefits. So you decide to reapply. Now, in your mind, you’re thinking that since you were receiving benefits before, you should have a leg up. NOT SO FAST, my good friend (in the words of ESPN’s LEE CORSO). You don’t get preferential treatment just because you were receiving benefits before. Remember, a determination was made that you no longer need the benefits so you have to prove the you do.
5) You got a closed period of disability benefits. So you decided to reapply!
This one is tricky. A closed period is a clearly defined start and stop. You were determined to have been disabled from one point to another. Let’s say from Jan. 1, 2008 through Jan. 1, 2009. Now, you decide to reapply. The same rules apply. You’re treated as if you have started from scratch.
Please remember that you are not entitled to any special privileges or opportunities just because you started over. You still must go through the process as if you are starting from scratch.
